Dealing with Grief During the Holidays

The holidays often come wrapped in joy and togetherness, but for those grieving a loss, this season can be especially heavy. Memories tied to past celebrations, the absence of a loved one, or the pressure to appear cheerful can intensify feelings of sadness. If you’re navigating this challenging time, know that it’s okay to feel however you feel—and you don’t have to walk this path alone. Here are compassionate tips and strategies to help you find solace and strength during the holidays.

Honor Your Feelings

Grief is unique to each person, and there’s no “right” way to experience it. Some days may feel manageable, while others can feel overwhelming. Give yourself permission to feel and express your emotions, whether it’s sadness, anger, or even moments of joy interspersed with the pain. Journaling, talking to a trusted friend, or simply sitting with your feelings can be powerful ways to acknowledge and validate them. Remember, it’s okay to cry, reminisce, or even laugh when something brings you a moment of happiness.

Seek Support

You don’t have to go through this season alone. Lean on people who make you feel supported and safe—whether it’s family, close friends, or a grief support group. Talking about your loss with others who understand can provide comfort. Online communities, local therapists, or faith-based organizations can also be valuable resources if you’re looking for connection or advice during this time.

If you'd rather not talk about your grief but yearn for company, that’s okay too. Spending time with loved ones without the expectation to share can still bring a sense of comfort and belonging.

Create New Traditions

Traditions often hold deep emotional ties, and continuing old ones may feel painful without your loved one. Instead of forcing yourself to carry them on as they were, consider creating new traditions that honor both your grief and your healing process.

For example, you might light a candle in memory of your loved one during holiday dinners, donate to a charity in their honor, or organize a small get-together to reflect and share memories. Alternatively, you can create a completely fresh tradition—perhaps exploring a new place, cooking a different meal, or spending the day volunteering. Give yourself permission to create space for what feels meaningful and manageable.

Coping Strategies for Holiday Stress

Holidays can come with additional stressors—planning gatherings, shopping for gifts, or managing expectations. If these responsibilities feel overwhelming, remind yourself that it’s okay to say “no” or simplify your plans. You don’t owe others perfection, and you don’t need to meet every expectation.

Set boundaries for what you’re willing to do this season, and prioritize self-care. This might mean taking an evening to rest, stepping outside for fresh air, practicing mindfulness, or engaging in an activity that soothes you, such as reading, drawing, or taking a warm bath.

Remember, grief tends to ebb and flow, often unpredictably. Allow yourself the flexibility to adjust plans, skip certain events, or make changes if something doesn’t feel right in the moment.

Finding Moments of Peace

Amidst the chaos and emotions, moments of peace are still possible. They might come unexpectedly—a memory that feels comforting or a quiet walk in the crisp winter air. Look for small ways to bring yourself comfort, be it through music, reflection, or spending time with nature.

Mindfulness practices, such as deep breathing or meditation, can also help ground your emotions. These gentle moments remind us that it’s okay to pause and take things one step at a time.

You’re Not Alone

Grief can feel isolating, especially during times when the world around you seems to celebrate. However, you are not alone. Your emotions are valid, and your healing is a process that takes time and care. Surround yourself with people and practices that make you feel supported and nurtured.

This holiday season, give yourself the gift of grace. It’s okay to lean on others, honor your emotions, and take steps—no matter how small—toward healing. At A Healing Place, we’re here to support you every step of the way.

Blog written by:
Lisa Anderson
Owner of A Healing Place